These internal processes shape more than the external experiences ever can, for these internal processes will be forever linked to the experience unless we choose to change them. The best part about this is that YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO ALTER YOUR EXPERIENCES. So rather than saying, "I will surround myself with positive experiences," which oftentimes is beyond our control, you have the power to change your internal processes and create positive experiences from anything that comes your way.
As you begin to build memories of positive internal process during experiences, you have the control to evoke a positive change in your life forever, regardless of your external experiences. Change your labels on past experiences from "bad" to "learning experience" and find the good in every step of your life's journey. No time period in your life is "wasted time" or "regretful", because you lived those moments for a reason. You learned from them, endured them to practice discomfort, met people you needed in your life, grew as a human, became the individual that you are today because of EVERY SINGLE STEP IN YOUR JOURNEY.
Experiences happen...it is how you process them which gives them meaning. So what meaning are you going to give them? What power are you going to allow them? Choose to give them the most positive meaning that you can fathom. Choose to live each moment as if it is brought to you for purpose and assign that purpose in a positive way. ONLY WHEN YOU CHANGE YOUR INTERNAL PROCESSES CAN YOU TRULY CHANGE YOUR SELF. You must dig down to your core and expose your inner wisdom. Expose the light inside that tells you there is more to life than the external.
There is love. There is learning. There is positive growth. There is change.